Dating after 35
She hasn’t mastered the life skill of introspection, so she’s blinded by her bitterness.It doesn’t occur to her that she might be the problem even though every date and relationship seems to end the same way.Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.
She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s The Man and she’s his prize!
The 18 Year Old The 18-year-old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
This “I’m never going to find a good relationship” gal leaves men unable to get any traction during courting or in a relationship.
The wall she has erected is just too high for him to climb in order to get to the other side.
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.