Dating a frenchman in america
But the French like to move quick; they work on impulse and chemistry.If they’re attracted to you after date one, they kiss you on date two, you’re pretty much guaranteed to be locked in to being their girlfriend right away.After many dates turning sour or crushes who disappear seamlessly into thin air, I’ve been educated on what to expect when you’re dating native French men. I’d spent my whole life believing it was the man’s decision to say where we should go, what we should do.I’ve been left speechless when I’ve been asked before several of my dates, ‘So, what would you like to do?Oh how different things might have been if I’d known then what I know now… You flirt, perhaps touch each other a little, (or, in my case, he brushed my leg with his foot under the table once, I blush thinking he’s outrageously flirting with me only for him then to apologise for accidentally kicking me.) Anyway, the chemistry is going wild yet he hasn’t made the move and kissed you.I certainly learnt the hard way what you must never say to a French man if you wish to declare your feelings (en francais, parce que c’est plus romantique comme ça…) So, you’re dating. I was once in this position with a man I had feelings for, I was cautiously optimistic that he felt the same way but neither of us was brave enough to admit our feelings.Once you kiss a French man for the first time, you’re practically declaring exclusivity right off the bat.In other cultures, it may be normal to ‘date around’ when you’re single, see which shoe fits…
As well as having to be more decisive about where you want to go on a date, it’s pretty important that a woman does aide the man in doing some of the follow up work after the date.
I have a friend who, after having been on a couple dates with a French guy, stumbled across something marked on his calendar a month to the day after they had shared their first kiss saying it was their would-be ‘1 month anniversary’ on that day.
Since she’d only known him for two weeks, she was naturally quite alarmed at how far they’d already progressed as a couple in his mind.
But, when you say it ‘en français’, it doesn’t quite translate as you’d like it to.
In other words, if you tell him ‘Je t’aime bien,’ your love interest isn’t likely to be making your relationship ‘Facebook official’ anytime soon.
If the sun is shining, tell him you’d love to take a walk along the Seine.