Bad things about dating older men
You may find yourself considering dating an older man, and if it’s good enough for the likes of Demi Moore and Catherine Zeta-Jones, why not you?
Here are eight things you need to consider when dating an older man.
He may be 45 and fit now, but when you’re reaching middle age, he might be classed as an OAP and will most likely suffer from the health issues that hit men of a certain age.
These problems have to become yours too if you’re to have a happy, understanding relationship.
That’s not to say they will completely lack a youthful mindset: a study by Nickelodeon UK found that men remain ‘immature’ well into their early 40s, while women mature at an average age of 32 We use cultural references to express who we are and where we’ve come from.
If you find it odd that his favourite bands are Genesis and ELO, then you will need to decide whether you can get used to that, or whether you will feel increasingly isolated.
Thanks to the patriarchy, women learn to master blow jobs early in their sexual lives (sometimes before they even lose their virginity) but guys typically don't figure out that women want their vulvas licked until their mid-20s. Either way, older guys are more likely to be the most comfortable snuggle you've ever had. He holds it out from his body like he has stiff little Tyrannosaurus arms and the baby hangs there like, "Who the fuck handed me to this beer-breathed sociopath in cargo shorts? He doesn't try to get away with not using a condom.
Have you ever seen an early-twentysomething guy get handed a baby?
Time, practice and knowledge all make for a sexual expertise – he’s had time to perfect his techniques Just as his health will possibly deteriorate, your older man’s energy levels will also drop over time.You will probably need to be prepared to be lower on his list of priorities sometimes, even if his children are grown up. If he doesn’t, are you prepared to sacrifice your desire for children to find love?You might be fine with this, but it’s important to consider carefully. The last thing you should do is enter the relationship thinking ‘I’ll change his mind’ – you most probably won’t and it’s a huge gamble. Do you need help setting up automatic bill pay or your 401(k)? Any decently nice guy accumulates ex-girlfriend friends.
Also remember that older men will have the same dilemma with any references you make – they may make them feel old and distant from you.